Ann texas marriage life

Ann Texas Marriage Life

March 14, 2026

A friendly conversation with a Thai friend who has been married and living in the USA for many years.

Three years ago, I invited Ann to be a guest on my YouTube channel. We had never met in person, but we had known each other online for a long time — so long that I don’t even remember where we first connected. She had already been living in the USA for many years, and I wanted her to share her experience of being married to a foreign husband. Ann and her family live in Texas.

Ann came to the USA in the early 2000s, when she was in her twenties, to work at her aunt’s Thai restaurant. Her husband at that time wanted to learn Thai, so he applied for a job at the same restaurant. That’s how they met. He is half‑Thai, half‑American, but his Thai language had completely faded. Ann didn’t know anything about dating sites back then. She wasn’t looking for anyone, and she didn’t expect to meet a partner. She only learned about dating sites later when someone told her, but she never used them.

When they married, there was no dowry. He didn’t have the money because he was already supporting his children from a previous marriage. Ann’s family understood and never asked for anything. After they married, they also didn’t send money back to Thailand because they had their own responsibilities in the USA. Ann said, “If we had more money, we would definitely send for sure. But luckily, my family never requested.”

Ann told me she never struggled after marrying him. In fact, she became happier every day because her younger life had been difficult. I told her that I grew up differently — my family lived in the city, not rich, but comfortable. I never learned how to dig the ground, plant vegetables, or use a charcoal stove. Many people think only rich girls don’t know these things, but that’s not true. I’m not rich, but my parents raised me in a convenient lifestyle. We lived in rental houses in Bangkok and used electric and gas stoves. Even though my grandparents on my mother’s side had a charcoal stove, I never learned how to use it.

Ann understood this very well. She said people often judge others for not knowing certain things, but if you never lived in that environment, how would you know? She is originally from Bueng Kan Province (which used to be part of Nong Khai), so she understands both sides — city life and countryside life.

Later, Ann talked to her husband about having a child together. At first, he said no because he already had children and had undergone sterilization. Ann didn’t mind. But eventually, they both changed their minds. He reversed the procedure, and they had a daughter together.

Before meeting her husband, Ann had escaped a bad relationship. She didn’t expect to marry again. When she moved into his house, she didn’t worry about whether he would marry her or not. She didn’t care about age differences either — she followed her feelings and love. She told me they didn’t really have big problems as a couple, but they had to adapt to each other. Cultural habits were different, and language was sometimes a challenge. He tried to speak Thai, but not in a Thai way, so she kept correcting him until he understood.

I asked Ann what she thought about Thai women who look for retirement foreign men because they believe those men have money to support them and their Thai families. Then I asked the opposite: what about Thai women who choose younger foreign men? Ann said, “I don’t know. I can’t judge anyone. I follow my feelings and love first.”

She added something important: “Living with someone for life takes a lot of energy. Don’t rush. Take time to know the man well before you throw your life into his life.”

What about you? How is your marriage, or if you are still looking for a man, what truly matters to you when choosing a partner? What are your real requirements for the man you want to build a life with?